Comments on: Tiger, (Let’s Pretend) We Hardly Knew Ye

By: angeloubouvier

angeloubouvier — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:23:38 +0000

Rainy day re-evaluation causes me again to jump from what is expected to what is real.
If you watch the documentaries on women who fall for “con men” who rob them of money and property, one never thinks; who were these women? who marries a man after 6 weeks? (Sunday night documentary on con men dated 1-24-10 on one of those basic cable stations)In a less glaring perspective, most of us are guilty of this in a far more reduced state. I think all of us that are in long term marriages are in denial to some degree but there are those few marriages that are just lucky and its as real as it can be. If any of you are truly feminists, playing victim is as outdated as wearing curlers in your hair to the A&P.
The only way Mrs Woods could be unaware that her fine husband was spending time with 8 other women was if she was too busy to notice but how is that possible? How could she NOT know? One would feel it or if not, nothing was happening there worth talking about unless of course you want to find solace with those that pretend they had a real marriage.
Mr Woods was wrong but what part does the highly attractive Mrs. Woods play in this generic high end drama? Please understand I’m not defending Mr Woods nor am feeling sorry for Mrs Woods or Mrs Draper.
I’m just hoping that schools make”The emperors new clothes” required reading.
I met someone new last week and its hot but I really don’t know if hes an honest man or a player. Its just hot.
I don’t miss my husband at all.

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:24:14 +0000

I don’t care much about Tiger Woods. I feel sorry for the children, and Elin. It’s hard enough to sustain a bicultural marriage, but such betrayal must be really galling, any betrayal is – and I speak from experience – multiply that by however many mistresses surfaced and it makes you want to get in there and swing that golf club along with her.

By: Juliaink

Juliaink — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:39:12 +0000

I would guess that people who seek illicit relationships get stimulated by and addicted to the physical excitement of what they have to do to escape detection. It is sort of like the pattern of falling hardest for people who are intermittently rejecting–the emotional turmoil gets channeled into sexual desire. In the case of the cheaters, I wonder if the pattern might be related in part to a hardwired social behavior of seeking access to females without drawing negative attention from the dominant male. And even the dominant male has to have developed sexually during a period when he was not yet dominant, when such a pattern could become ingrained. I also suspect that different adulterers have different motives–Clinton seems to have been channeling suppressed fury when he got involved with Lewinsky, others seem to act out of arrogance, entitlement, frustration–whatever. Acting on illicit desires is another matter, and there is always the question of why the other party is willing to get involved with and may even seduce someone who would be otherwise monogamous. In the end, I guess people do these things simply because they can…

By: Christina

Christina — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 17:25:48 +0000

It actually seems like self-sabotage on Tiger Woods’ part, ya know? This stuff always gets discovered–esp with so many women involved. It’s as if he was begging to be found out and taken down.

Men are wired differently than women, for sure. Testosterone is powerful stuff. It doesn’t excuse the stupidity of men who pull this crap, but it sort of explains it.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:03:03 +0000

Nothing shocks me anymore. But yes, like Jen, I’m disappointed. But why can’t we have life long fidelity? If the women can keep it in their pants, why can’t the men? I suspect it has less to do with sex and more to do with narcissism. These men think they’re above the law, so to speak. That they can get away with anything and everything and not get caught. They have no concept of how their actions will affect everyone around them. The whole subject is sickening. But no, not shocking.

By: Jen Singer

Jen Singer — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:51:32 +0000

What was shocking to me was the sheer numbers of women, some at the same time, that he managed to juggle while at the same time avoiding any rumors of his infidelity, er, infidelities. It was his multi-tasking skills more than anything that floored me.

In the past few days, CNN reported that the losses for many of the companies he represented has been in the billions of dollars. All because he couldn’t keep it in his pants. Shocked? No. Disappointed? Absolutely. And a great teachable moment for my sons.