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Living in Splitsville » Blog Archive » Christmas Tree-O — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:20:21 +0000

[...] got our Christmas tree. Pulling out the decorations had a similar effect as the one I described in my post about my country house, where the familiar backdrop forces you to acknowledge the things that have changed in the [...]

By: Noah Carter

Noah Carter — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 13:41:32 +0000

This is a beautiful post.

By: Christina

Christina — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:16:15 +0000

It is so hard to be in that limbo stage. We also vacationed as a family during the months we knew we would separate and that was so hard–plus we hadn’t told the kids yet, so we had to act like all was normal. It’s so difficult to let go and it can’t be rushed. I’m glad you find my posts encouraging–it makes me feel twice as encouraged!

By: Jennifer Fink

Jennifer Fink — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:28:56 +0000

Two weeks ago, we had our first post-separation vacation, to the cottage we’ve been visiting every year since before some of our children were born. The trip was planned well in advance of the separation, so after some discussion, we all decided to go: Mom, Dad and the kids. For us, it was a practical decision as much as anything else. Our kids are still young enough that one needs to nap while say, the others go out with the other parent to fish.

It was good, but awkward. And there were definitely moments of sadness. I’d never cried at the cottage before, and this year I did. It’s just funny how a place becomes a repository for so many memories. On the one hand, there’s the year I felt my child move for the first time inside me. On the other hand, there’s the pain of being there with someone I’m no longer “with.”

We don’t know yet what next year will bring (do any of us?), but I’m encouraged by your post.